On Grief

ON GRIEF




     Sometimes, life is sad.  There are people who I miss, who I won't see again, until the afterlife.  Sometimes, in an effort to reach the heights of heaven, we do foolish things.  The best thing that we can do, is to go ahead and cry.  Our emotions can be stormy and we can feel tossed by the waves of them.  But, take hope, that in the end, we will find peace.  We can look and look for answers and never find them.  We will always remember the people who filled our lives with their presence.  When we finally lay down to our rest, our tears will be over.  That's why I feel that it's important to spread the Gospel, so that no soul is destroyed.

     But, life goes on.  Birds still sing their songs.  The wind still blows.  We can still listen to music, dance in our own way, and enjoy our lives.  Life can seem boring, routine even, when you are grieving.  But little by little, if you allow yourself, you start to notice the little things again, and enjoy them.  Then, that allowance of life spreads back out into it, and you notice bigger things, until once again, you are swaying along your path, to the beat of your own music.  Things can come along and throw us off; but the important thing is to keep getting up, dusting ourselves off, and getting back onto our path, and continuing our adventure called life.

     Sometimes people even have to move away from a place if the memories are not good ones.  Goodbye can be healing.  Sometimes we don't even know how to move forward if we've been stuck in a place or were in a codependent relationship where our decisions weren't always our own.  In those cases, I recommend some life coaching or therapy to help you get unstuck.  Just think of what YOU need to do to get yourself through your grief.  We inherently know if we look inside of ourselves.  Sometimes a family member or friend will step in and take you away from the situation by advice, or even an invitation to stay with them for awhile.

     So, life gives us lemons sometimes.  We don't want to lose people that we love.  We don't want to be limited to seeing their fading faces in pictures.  But, if we have the hope that we will join them someday, then the time is just that.  I know some people consult mediums, etc, but even some of them admit, they may not be receiving accurate information.  Losing your faith, and your money is not the best option.  So, let it out.  Emotions can be scary.  But, if we hand over situations to our higher power, the Universe, God, Jesus, then we know that someone much better equipped to handle them is in charge.  We sure don't have all of the answers!  Losing someone that you loved is painful.  So, we do need to cry, or whatever else that safely helps us to process this loss.  In Christ, we have the hope that someday, we will all be together again in a new place.  The hard part is waiting.  Watching time pass.  Watching the seasons of our lives and years go by.  We need to focus on the little things that bring joy to our lives.  Focusing on our grief keeps us stuck in it.  Notice the birds singing and the wind blowing, and the sun on your face.  Notice the interwoven plan that is unfolding in your own life.  There will always be problem people and situations in our lives.  We cannot change the people who are around us, but we can change the people who we choose to be around.  Sometimes, we just have to let go.  Freedom is the best feeling.  Getting your head on straight can take some time, but you're worth the investment.  We all react differently, so my way, may not be your way.  You have to find that one out for yourself.  We usually know what works for us and what doesn't.  Look for support from those who love you, and those who offer it.  Because sometimes, we all need a little support.

Rev. Angelia Schwarz Coleman, PhD.E.
Minister Works of Heart Ministry & Outreach
Executive Director Healing Families Lives, Inc.
wohwomensministry@gmail.com